1. Putting each other first in your priority list
Sometimes, it is easy to get caught up in many of life’s distractions that we tend to forget about each other. Be it work, friends, or a new hobby, we should always remember that there are two people in a relationship. No one would like to feel neglected by their partner because he/she a lot of time on a new <insert distraction here>.
Now, we’re not saying that you should drop that big project you’re working on, or forego your friends because you don’t have the time for each other. However, it is important that while you might be tied up for a while, you let each other know and FEEL that they are still the number one priority on your list.
2. Appreciate the littlest things
The longer down the road you travel together, the more likely you will get used to the little things that you do for each other. And the more we get used to those little things, the more likely you will start to take these actions for granted. Make it a point to bring back those courteous “Thank You’s” for those things he / she does for you, no matter how small. Hearing a “Thank You” out of habit is always better than not feeling appreciated at all.
3. Communicate with each other
Communication (or lack thereof) is usually one of the main reasons couples drift apart from each other. Communication with each other is essential in keeping things going in the relationship. Make it a point to share with your partner about each other’s day and anything new or interesting that might have happened during the day.
And always remember to listen. You might not always find what your partner is telling you interesting or noteworthy, but he/she is telling you about it is because it does to him/her.
Even if both of you are leading hectic lives across the world from each other, you definitely can spare that 15-minute phone call for each other every now to share on what’s happening with each other.
4. Spend quality time together
In today’s digital world, we tend to be easiliy distracted by our smart phones, the TV, movies, or the computer. Make it a point to spend some quality time with each other. It doesn’t matter if its just snuggling on the bed or taking a walk by the park. Most importantly is to detach from yourselves from the rest of the world and have only each other for company.
5. Communicate to resolve issues
If there’s something about your partner that is bothering you, it is imperative that you let him or her know. Unless it is an one-off incident, you need to tell your partner about it. Holding it all inside would do nothing but build up negativity towards each other. Then again, you need to do this in a careful manner, to let your partner know that you mean the best for him/her and that’s why you are telling them about it. (Think Interventions from HIMYM)
Probably the harder role of the two is to be the one receiving. It is almost an instinctive natural reaction for us to feel hurt and anger when someone points out a negative trait. More likely than not, you will react in a defensive manner taking that comment more harshly than intended. However, before you do so, take a step back and wonder why would someone whom you mean so much to mention so. They mean the best for you and are just trying to help resolve an issue.
Communicating to resolve issues is usually a tricky skill that each couple has to learn to develop together. In this particular aspect, we strongly recommend that emotions be kept at bay and the issue be resolved in a mature manner.
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